Pavel “Hirax“ Baričák

Primer of Happiness
The Return to OURSELVES

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Published by HladoHlas Group, spol. s r.o.,
Rumunskej armády 1/6, 036 01 Martin, Slovakia,
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in 2012 as its thirty-first publication.

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Translation from the Slovak language:
Professional editing: Róbert Mankovecký, Milan Polák

Book cover: Zuzana Kadecká, Pavel “Hirax“ Baričák

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ISBN 978-80-89711-27-7

Created by Dibuk, s. r. o., 2014

Dedicated to the world full of love.

Should I miss it in this life, I’ll savour it in the next one.

“We should only read what we admire.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“If you can’t annoy somebody, there’s little point in writing.”

Kingsley Amis

Contents

Prologue: We rebuild the foundations, and the roof turns to gold

Some warnings before you go crazy with happiness

I. Let’s look around

Before we entered the game…

Nothing happens by chance, but we have the right to make decisions

Everything is as it is, or, The place of our destination

Let’s talk about God for a while

From love to the present moment

Where’s the time gone?

The Matrix

II. The return to ourselves

Forgive yourself; you won’t make any progress without doing so...

A meditation of forgiving oneself

Forgive others

Let’s forgive everyone

Acceptance

Acceptance put into practice

Experiencing day-to-day life

Kill both the judge and executioner in yourself

Get rid of your parents in yourself

Don’t stop cherishing your parents

Thank you, daddy

Scared all the time...

Decision and fear

Let’s stop fighting (and something about the material realm, too)

Don’t rummage around in your past; it is a dead cat

People of the present will be happy after death

We can only be happy in the present

Once again on the non-existence of perfection .

Religious deviations

My open letter to God

Deviations of a different kind

Sexual deviations

Good deeds rewarded with cancer

Stop feeling sorry and pity for others and their pains. That is not love

Deviations of the human body

If you haven’t been asked for advice, then keep it to yourself

Accept your body

Our days are ruled by the cult of youth and beauty

The body is a reflection of the soul, and the soul is a reflection of the body

I change myself, I change the world

A bit of spiritualism

A few thoughts on mirroring and teachers

When you really want to make up, but your effort is being ignored

Want to change a relationship? Change yourself first

Listen to your heart, it will answer all your questions

Start to listen to life’s whispers

Meet your own soul

Be careful about what you say, for the universe will immediately put you to the test

Let positive thinking be walls of your house

On energy and the exact timing of everything

Some dreams may come true, some may not

If you don’t know what you want, put this book aside and take a swim in a lake

How I conjured up Sarah Rachel, my family, paradise, love

A course in miracles

They have devoured the book called The Secret, yet they are not happy

Pay attention to the things that give you energy as well as to those that take it away from you

Don’t pretend anything

Don’t look for pearls, collect stones

Keep things simple

A change of perspective

Change is energy

Changing the state of mind

Learn, learn, learn

Creating is energy

Work done out of love is energy

Rebellion is energy

Meditation is energy

It’s the other way round – those who are active get energy

Slovaks think negatively – that’s why they’re not successful

We neither thank, nor ask enough

They didn’t praise us, so we can neither praise ourselves nor accept praise

Let’s put the negative conductor’s baton aside; let’s learn not to judge, blame and ridicule others

Let’s not stop being children nor fools

Why did I have to think about that for so long?!

Let’s look at the “problem” in greater detail

Don’t make promises

When breaking up is difficult

On true love between a man and a woman

A brief recap, or, on accepting slander

Understanding illness

Do you suffer from a serious illness? Are you dying? Knock, the door will be opened

Accepting someone else’s death

Accepting your own death

III. A new dream of humankind

Respect for the beloved Mother Earth

Love for children is the key

Create your own world, be like magicians

A new dream of humankind

Walking to the top is best done alone

Prologue: We rebuild the foundations, and the roof turns to gold

This book was born because it had to be born. There’s no doubt about it. After all, you’re holding it in your hands now. For quite a few years I’d been flirting with the idea of writing down everything that I’d learnt in my life, that I’d been through, that I’d wept through and that I’d transformed into solutions, in one single book. Yes, even Confucius said that there are three paths that can lead a man to wisdom. The first path is reflection, which is the noblest. The second path is imitation, which is the easiest. The third path is man’s own experience and this is the most bitter one. However, visiting the bookstores and seeing the sections of esoteric literature in particular had always discouraged me from writing. There was so much of it! Full shelves! Osho, Kirschner, Hay, Sinelnikov, Ruiz, Tepperwein... “They are all writing about the same thing, just using different words. Why add yet another book to the shelf?”

However, with every novel I’d written, there were more and more invitations to meet my readers, give lectures, and attend various festivals and discussion forums. People kept asking me everywhere if I’d read The Secret and I just answered them with a smile that I’d already been living it for two decades, although it hadn’t yet been written back then. I told them that I’d read Carnegie and other psychologists while just a small boy and applied the Silva Method, and that these people’s ideas only confirmed what I’d somehow already had in me since I was born.

In my lectures, I spoke about things familiar to me; the power of our own thoughts, positive thinking, forgiving both others and ourselves, and coming back to our own nature. I also described different techniques on how to rid oneself of psychological problems, although later on I realised that instead of using the new likeable thoughts like a spark to burn out the old forest within themselves, people often did something else: they came home and put the new thoughts away in their shiny bureaus and labelled them as “the truth”. They didn’t put anything of it into practice. Every second person you meet today is reading The Secret, yet they’re unhappy, and not even rich as they expected to become when reading the book. Something went wrong…

I start my lectures by telling people that the axioms described in this book should be taught in school. One unhappy generation should stop bringing up another, maybe even unhappier, one. Why should I, Mr Clean (they say I look like him!), have to lead a psychological guerrilla war in the libraries, coffee shops and bookstores and shock the unconscious with what should have been a common thing for everyone from day one. Yet the Matrix (I like to call this system as such) doesn’t want people to know the truth. Do you know why? Because it needs unhappy people for its survival.

We live in times when we learn mainly through relationships, illnesses and death. It’s nice when they teach the schoolkids that a gentleman is supposed to go down the stairs first, or how to use cutlery. Yet maybe if we were more educated in matters of psychology and relationships, our heads wouldn’t be exploding with mental pain and there would be less cutting and stitching in hospitals. Naturally so, because illnesses are mostly caused by unresolved mental states. No-one’s ever told you that there are a hundred causes for one illness? I know, my doctor has never asked me either what my emotional life has been like lately, what problems I’ve been solving and why I couldn’t sleep last night due to feeling a red-hot ball in my stomach. Medicine is improving the technologies that treat and ease the consequences, but it doesn’t solve the causes. Yet when you’re building a house, every mason will tell you that you mustn’t skimp on the foundations, because they are the most important thing. You can have the most expensive roof in the world but once your little house starts falling down, your golden chimney won’t help you much.

I decide where to direct my energy, because this life is nothing else but the intake and expenditure of energy. I won’t be here forever. I love my family and I feel that I want to be with them now. That’s why I wrote this book – so that I wouldn’t have to live a nomadic way of life and speak to dozens when there is a way that one can whisper to thousands. If you feel like it, you can lend this book to those in pain; maybe it’ll help them. If someone throws it back at you, know that they acted according to the level of their own being and had a right to do that. Don’t let that discourage you though, and offer it to another soul that is currently trying to commit a quiet suicide by his or her negative approach to things. Moreover, we shouldn’t forget that by committing suicide we’re also committing murder on those around us, because we’re all connected. We must understand that when people in Africa have nothing to eat, or someone is stabbing a victim somewhere in California at this very moment, even our great grandparents are somehow responsible for that. We don’t want to have blood on our hands, do we? We want the next generations to live in a paradise that we’ve left for them, not bomb craters…

I wrote this book for ordinary people, so I saw to it that I was using the simplest possible language. No, this isn’t yet another book on “heavy” esoterics. We will clarify the terms here and then we will learn to help ourselves. We will learn how to transform the quality of pain and draw the right consequences; how to smile through tears and start a loving dialogue with the world. This is a primer for first-graders. You won’t find a manual on how to live on prana here, or how to leave your body during meditation, or that we will save Mother Earth by connecting with the Pleiadians. The only chance for peace, love and understanding to start their reign on our beautiful blue planet is, in fact, in the hands of one person. Who is that person? It’s you, who are reading these words right now. Because if you, my dear reader, are happy, those around you will be happy too. Remember this sentence well because you can’t do more for Mother Earth and humankind than make yourself happy.

Some warnings before you go crazy with happiness

1. Everyone has their own explanation of “suffering” in life. Over the whole existence of humankind, plenty of Pty Ltds promising love have been set up (encyclopaedias of religions and philosophies are readily available). If, therefore, some of the things said in this book don’t fit your already established belief system, you can just say that Baricak is off the beam and you’re not accepting this or that. So take only what suits you. If it’s just one single sentence, you were supposed to come across this book.

2. Baricak isn’t any kind of “realised guru who meditates all the time”, as I’ve often heard people say. That’s fatal stupidity! Baricak is an ordinary man; that is to say, he’s a miraculous being just like yourself, who makes mistakes, learns from them and fulfils life’s tasks. Yet, maybe with the exception that I’ve brought much more energy with me to this life than others, so giving in to defeat or sinking into depression has never crossed my mind. I take a moment to analyse the situation, experience it with every cell of my body and find a way out. I unshakably believe that the beloved Sun always emerges from behind the thick clouds. All that is needed is to ask for it and it always emerges. I’ve tested it, believe me.

3. I’m not establishing a new religion, sect or philosophical movement! I’m not giving any paid personal consultations. Give me a break – I don’t want your recognition, money or applause. What I want is your happiness. Attain it by yourself. Take this book just like a little booster. Rejoice in your own inner springs. Then I won’t have to spend my evenings writing back to you in response to your pains, looking for the right words to comfort you over and over again and explaining to my wife that I’m not chatting with my girlfriends. I’m following my own goal here; can’t you see how I love myself? No longer will I have to travel the country. I’ll enjoy the hearth and home along with the fact that I’ve contributed to the global human smile with a tiny grain. Spread it yourself by being quiet and calm, but also by being joyful and endlessly smiling. That’s the only way to spread the “disease of positiveness”.

4. Accept occasional vulgarisms in the book. I didn’t feel like correcting the real language of our times. Dishonesty is the last thing you can expect from me. For sweet talk, go meet your coffeetime friend who doesn’t go into the heart of the problem in order not to hurt you or is not aware of the deeper relations at all.

5. If you want to fall into the lion’s den forever, pick a book on chakras. However, I recommend you to read the basics first. If not this primer, then some other. This is a book for first-graders where some of the ideas and laws of the universe are only outlined. If you feel hungry for more, you can just reach out your hand in our times of information avalanche. There are books for each chapter which dissect the particular problem or area and get to the root of it. Just desire it and it’ll come your way.

6. I deliberately repeat myself, since the principle of repetition emphasises the main point. Over and over again I’ll be mentioning the same ideas about self-acceptance, forgiveness, acceptance of the “hardships” of life, saying thank you, positive thinking, learning to smile in the darkest moments, and doing magic with unshakeable conviction. From the left, from the right, from above, from below... Persevere; it’s an intention that’ll get under your skin. You’ll thank me in ten years’ time.

7. The book doesn’t have a system. I deliberately avoided the textbook style. The chapter titles often don’t even correspond with the content. I simply connected myself to the Source and wrote down what was whispered to me. Thus, consider the book a collection of short chapters and stories that follow on each other indirectly.

8. The system that we live in I call the Matrix. You cannot touch it with your hands. You can spot it with your mind only. It gives us sweets with a smile, yet they are but rotten food. It lied to our parents who came to believe many of its delusions that gradually impoverish people with every new generation, depriving them of their own lives. That’s why many of the words in this book are in quotation marks, since evil is not real “evil”, the enemy is not a real “enemy”, the rich one is not “rich”, the poor one is not “poor”, the chicken is not a “chicken” and an apple is often not an “apple”. While writing the book, I realised many times that it would be easier to put quotation marks at the beginning and at the end of the whole text to take care of this problem for good. Eventually, however, my desire to provide the blind with glasses prevailed, so I took the trouble and started using words in their true meanings, because if you really open your eyes, you’ll realise that everything is the other way around (which means that everything is as it should be).

9. Be aware that I can easily negate an already-introduced idea with another one after a few pages. The divine yarn is woven so perfectly that what can be applied to one situation cannot be applied to another. This is not mathematics with the possibility of reverse calculation. This is a beautiful, divinely-devised mechanism. One day, people will see it in every word. Unfortunately, we live in times when it’s not yet possible. However, if you start to inquire into the matters of the spiritual realm a little more, you’ll end up with one word anyway. The word is love.

I. Let’s look around

Before we entered the game...

Before we were born, we planned what we were going to learn in our next life. Each one of us had started to stagnate in a particular stage of our spiritual growth and development in our past lives, so every one of us is now learning what we need to learn. Someone has to learn to become more confident, another to get rid of obsessive jealousy, and yet another has to brush up on handling money; someone is just a motivational soul that leaves their parents as a six-month-old son and prepares them perfectly for his next birth (and they’ll love him twice as much). Everyone comes here with a different goal. We are all pieces of a perfect puzzle. Each one of us is our neighbour’s hand, each one of us is an amazing cell of God. And as the cells grow, the spirit of the universe – love itself – improves.

We prepared ourselves thoroughly before we set foot on planet Earth. Where? I call that place Home. We’re just visitors here, but it’s there we’re really at home. How did we prepare? After we got together from our previous life and drew a lesson from what we hadn’t “mastered”, we started to attend “schools” as you’d expect. We spent our time in study halls and did group exercises which imitated situations that were to happen to us on Earth. We were learning how to solve certain things so that we wouldn’t have to repeat the lesson in the next life. Why waste time when the universe’s subconsciousness wants to evolve into higher frequencies? We planned our setbacks, disappointments, pains and diseases, but also our moments of joy, success and realisation. We chose the planet, our parents, our body, its condition, and our inner imperfections as well as our strengths and talents, because life is not only about learning but also creating. We made agreements with the other souls about who we are going to meet in the same time period and in the right place as our parents, children, partners, colleagues, friends, “enemies”...

They are souls that we’ve already met many times. We’ve been through a lot with them. And talking about “enemies”, it’s like they said in the Kolya movie: “He thought things couldn’t have been worse and yet, he was living the best days of his life.” Yes indeed, you think someone is your greatest enemy, but when you meet them on the other side you see that they are your closest soul mate who you’ve known for thousands of years. Before you were born, you both made an agreement about the mischiefs you would do to each other so that the right scheme was established for the tension of the soul so the soul could grow. And just as others can teach us, we can teach others by the way we respond. One time, it’s us who are the teachers; the other time, we are being taught.

When we’re ready and the “higher souls” decide that it’s the right time, we enter the earthly games. We go to other planets too, but it’s not that painful there. That’s why there are such long queues for being born on Earth. So let’s cherish life. We have waited and prepared for it for so long. We have our emotions and feelings as a gift, so let’s use them.

Of course, all this knowledge is deleted from our minds before we are born. It’s a shame, isn’t it? Why our beloved Earth? Because, thanks to the dual nature of things here (one time we are the tyrant, the other time we’re the abused) we can fully experience everything. It gets under your skin, through your emotions into your heart, right into the centre of our being, into that single hard drive that ties the necklace of our lives together and is always with us. One human life is a mere day in the totality of our spiritual life.

Each time we’re born, we undergo the never-ending process of self-improvement. In one life you are a woman, in another life you are a man. One time, we’re born black, the other time we’re born white. This time you’re a “smart” lawyer, the next time, you’re born as a “simple” farmer. The die is cast in such a way that a perfect starting position for our improvement is established. In fact, our “pains” are the greatest gifts, and the pleasures of life are just petrol stations to fill us up so that we could walk to the next moment of “grief”, full of energy, and make good use of it by turning it into our advantage – that is, to the advantage of the whole universe.

The Earth is but a host planet where a great cosmic experiment is taking place. Every part of the world is represented by a different race. That’s why there’s the constant wrestling match between “good” and “evil”. That’s why Muslims don’t understand Christians, black people are a joke for the white, and the “smart” ones consider themselves superior to the “stupid” people. Fortunately, we’re not alone in this “fight”. In every moment, the eyes of the whole universe are upon us. Countless souls that are on a higher level than we pin their hopes on us. They believe that tolerance, understanding, harmony and love will reign in the world one day.

Of course, some of you are asking how I can be so sure to describe such a model of being. I’ll answer you with my heart: it’s simply in me. I was born with it. There’s no cell in my body that doesn’t believe in past lives, Home and the Providence that made everything in the image of perfection and maintains the amazing harmony of things. That’s the truth that will be known to the whole world and taught in schools as a common thing in a few decades. It’s not possible yet, since the old world is based on materialistic foundations, but one day, these words will become commonplace.

Well, let’s move on, we’re about to be born...